I see you have four licensed officiants; who will officiate my ceremony?
Our “About” page has introductions from our three officiants and we also invite you to read our Reviews and see us in action on our “Gallery” page. To see if we’re a fit for your wedding, you will have the opportunity to meet personally with the officiant(s) you are interested in: When filling out the contact form on our “Contact Us” page, just let us know which officiant, or officiants, you’d like to meet for a no-obligation consultation meeting. Each will check his/her availability and respond to you within three business days if (s)he is available for your wedding day.
What happens with the marriage license after we sign it?
We have five days to return it to the county government office where you received it. We carry a stamp and address label on us so we can drop it in the mail on the same day of your wedding, ensuring compliance with the deadline.
Where do I put my engagement ring, the day of the wedding?
We recommend you wear it on a different finger during the ceremony. After you exchange wedding rings, move it over and place it on top of your wedding band.
What do you wear during the ceremony?
Kevin typicallys wear a suit and tie. Melanie, Biz and Anna generally wear black dresses.
Would we have a contract with you?
After our initial consultation, you will have the option to initiate a contract for our services. Once the contract arrives to us, we will sign, scan, and email it to you.
Can we personalize our vows?
Yes, you can. We never encourage you to try and memorize them. We keep your vows in the book we use and let you read from it when the time comes to say your vows, or (if the vows aren’t very long) repeat after us if you’d prefer.
When do you arrive at the ceremony?
We try to be there at least 45 minutes before the ceremony to begin filling out your marriage license, and talk with any vendors involved with your ceremony such as your site coordinator, your photographer, your musician/DJ, etc.
On your website, it says you coordinate with vendors. What does that mean?
When we arrive to your ceremony, we walk through the ceremony with your other vendors. It helps ensure everything goes smoothly.
Are you affiliated with a church or religion?
We do not perform our ceremonies in alliance with any particular church or religion. That said, we are open to incorporating religious language or readings.
Do we have to play a certain style of music for the ceremony?
No, you can play whatever style fits you best.
Do you run the rehearsal?
Yes, if you want a rehearsal (recommended unless you have a very small wedding party and no unity ritual), we will rehearse the lineup, the processional, how the bridal party stands, the basics of the ceremony (when and how: a bride may pass her bouquet, we ask for readers, we call for the rings, we do the unity ritual, etc), and the recessional. We’ll do this as many times as needed for you to feel comfortable that everyone knows what to do.
Does the rehearsal need to be in the exact space we will do the ceremony? What if our venue’s not available?
It’s ideal to use the actual space, particularly if there’s anything quirky or unusual about it; otherwise, no we can rehearse in another place.
How can I deal with the stress of the wedding day?
Most anxiety ramps up in the days and moments leading up to the rehearsal. Once you see that all involved will enact your plans, just enjoy the time through the ceremony and reception, knowing that everyone will perform their roles. For questions and coordination, put someone in charge of your day. If it’s not a wedding coordinator, designate someone you know and trust to be ‘in charge’ of the day. The last thing you want to be worried about is “Did I pay the DJ?” or, “Did everyone get a program?”. We don’t recommend this be a parent or anyone so closely tied emotionally to the day, but someone you trust who can deal with those kinds of details. Quick, little breathing exercises or meditations can help a lot as well. As you line up and prepare to walk in, you again may feel a bit nervous; this is completely normal and isn’t the same kind of ‘nervous’ you may have felt at the rehearsal. Here, the ‘butterflies’ you might feel are probably of hopeful anticipation; joyful and happy nerves! Once you’re ‘up there’ with the officiant, you’ll probably find, as most couples do, that your focus is so completely on each other (and a little on the officiant and Maid of Honor or Best Man) that any stage fright or public speaking fear is actually gone because your guests are simply not where your attention is; all you can see or hear is the ceremony and each other.
Do you require premarital counseling?
We do not require premarital counseling. However, we do encourage it; we see it as a way to strengthen your relationship.
Any other tips or advice?
Brides, if you are going to cry during your ceremony, tilt your head up a little bit. It will do the least amount of damage to your makeup. Melanie knows this from first-hand experience.
Speaking of crying, try clearing your throat if you feel ‘the waterworks’ coming on!
Our most important tip is to find 10 minutes by yourselves to let the importance of the day sink in. One of Melanie’s favorite examples of this was when she looked up to see the bride and groom quietly standing on a balcony as they watched their guests gather, below.
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